Popular phrases on TikTok that describe young Latinos' habits growing up are their mother, it, and apoel, and now they do it too.
Have you ever suddenly become interested in gardening, cleaning, or watching people from the window while drinking coffee and eating cake? Maybe in your time, Signora. This might mean staying in your pajamas instead of leaving the house, or enjoying simple pleasures like going for a walk and chatting with friends.
It's Abuelita elegance with a modern twist.
Los Angeles resident Molly Daniela said for her it's a reminder to "live slowly to find things like family." While sipping a hot drink on TikTok, Pata captioned it: "Life is busy. I started my woman era when I was 22. I started my woman era when I was 22."
For Danielle, channeling her inner Lady is a way to connect with the family she never knew.
“I never knew my grandparents because they died when I was young,” Daniela told HuffPost. It also helps me connect with my parents when they share stories about them. “Especially Grandma Molly, who my mom calls by her last name and loves wearing boots like the ones I'm wearing in the video.”
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Traditionally, woman represents an older woman, often married, who functions as wife and housekeeper. But for the new generation of senators, it's more than gender: it's a mentality.
Caroli, a 29-year-old Mexican resident of New York, identifies as non-binary and a woman. It's a way for them to "get all these little lessons from my mom, my grandma, and I'll think, 'Oh, that's not such a bad thing.'" And it feels too good to let go.
That woman's big move? Take care of your home. Caroli, who asked that her full name not be published to protect her privacy, posted a video on TikTok of her waking up early to clean the balcony of Fabuloso's apartment because it reminded them of waking up and seeing their mother dumping buckets of the same water. object. Detergent. . Production on the family balcony.
"I thought, 'Oh wow, I feel like a complete mother,'" Karoli said.
So the senior class can bring back memories of the past.
"I lost my grandfather about 12 or 13 years ago. But I know, I am at my best, Mom, when I feel you are close. I miss my mother too," said Caroli. "You know he's in that mode." when you feel as if you are in contact with a strong woman who meets from time to time." "In her entire life, or once in her life, a woman gives birth."
For Karali, the manifestation of her inner feelings reminds us of a grandmother hosting a large family dinner. Maybe you will serve us and look after us. “But this woman controlled everything that happened that day,” Karolyi said.
That's why, for Caroli, entering Lady's mental space "helps me feel in control, like I own something, especially for myself, but also for other people."
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Being a senior isn't just about TikTok, and experiencing it isn't just about staying home and relaxing. You can also send Bat Signals to like-minded people you want to meet, which has many mental health benefits.
Roommates from Brooklyn, New York, Jacqueline Padilla and Alexis Mendias recently moved to California and miss the simplicity of being able to enjoy the West Coast with cousins and friends by their side. One night in their apartment, two Mexican-Americans decide to start their own hangout group called the Urban Señoras.
For Padilla, urban women are figures who balance independence and interaction with other people. “They focus primarily on their mental health, on what they need that night, they light candles, they drink tea, they watch the show they want, they turn to their colleagues [friends] and say, 'Hey, I want to do that. dancing until late at night'". ". This is a form of self-service.
“It was humbling,” Mendias said of his willingness to play his first lottery-like game of bingo with City Seniors at Macarina Park this summer. No one else appeared. But the couple did not abandon their plans to "drive the old woman out of the house."
They decided that their next event would be to eat at a cafe and go to the park as usual activities for seniors.
“Go to La Plaza, where my mother is in Pueblo. "Walking is like I'm going to communicate, otherwise people will see things," Mendías said.
At that time, Mendias promoted the event on TikTok and the notifications continued to increase. About 70 people came to drink coffee, stroll through Central Park and play the lottery. Bu Bu also wants time.
“On the outings… there are girls who say, 'Sure I always save events, but I never show up.' But I really want to meet other girls like me. And that's why I'm here," he recalled. late.
“I'm very proud of how many of us play casual music in Spanish and maintain a comfortable and natural space with foreigners. Many people go alone,” Mendías said. “They have found other comrades [friends], other women who value time for personal gain and are willing to leave their comfort zone.
Simple pleasures like walking around and talking to friendly strangers in your city can have huge benefits for your mental health. A 2020 study in the Journal of Environmental Psychology found that walking for 30 minutes in a city park caused people to think negatively.
“These activities really calm the nervous system, whether it's gardening, drinking coffee, or going for a walk; "All the activities that are popular among the elderly involve one of our five senses," said Adriana. Alexander, California, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Latinx Therapy.
Therefore, declaring your Senior era will help you find balance within yourself and find people who are on the same journey as you.
“In the past, people entered adulthood at an older age. Because of this pandemic, I feel we need to reevaluate ourselves. "Now we choose our priorities," Padilla said.
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There are parts of the Señora Trope that the little ones want to leave behind. Asking for the title of Woman shows that you are of "responsible age," said Andrea López, a 25-year-old Dominican American who participated in the "Samba and Sips" event hosted by City Señoras.
“This is the moment when you decide to find yourself,” Lopez said.
This devotion is the Madame's mentality that she wants to embrace, but does not want to be part of the symbolism of sacrifice that is often associated with Madame.
If you read the Latin American classics of our history, women's roles were often sacrificial. “He often sacrificed his dreams and desires to put his family first,” Lopez said.
"People may not realize that a little homesickness is a gift to their inner child."
- Adriana Alejandro, therapist
This is part of a cultural script known as marinissimo, which encourages Latin Americans to center their lives on family and home, and encourages self-help, self-sacrifice, and purity. According to Marianism, women should respect patriarchal values and be “as close to the Virgin Mary as possible,” Alejandro said.
“I think this trend and everyone's perception trivializes the unhealthy parts of our culture,” Alexander said.
She says children often get stuck doing the same tasks that Mom does, such as cleaning, cooking and gardening, so it can be therapeutic for adults to do these tasks for their families.
“Now that we are adults, we have a sense of control, freedom, and physical boundaries from our families, so we can create these activities in a way that feels healthy for us,” she said.
"He is healing now, but people may not realize that he is healing his inner child, his little miss," continued Alejandro.
Choosing which parts of your heritage you want to honor and change is what differentiates the new wave of seniors.
“Ah, turning 50 doesn't require you to go out with your friends for coffee and picnics. “It's a really great way to connect the older generation with the younger generation and find a common language,” Karoli said.
“The current issues of today are breaking generational curses,” López said. “We learn to balance accepting this family history, but also healing ourselves and thereby healing future generations of seniors.”
